- Move as close to the group as you can. Listen until you know what people are talking about.
3. When there is a suitable pause in the conversation, give your opinion, or make a comment on
what someone else in the group has said. Ex. "Yeah, I loved that movie too. It really kept my
attention right up to the end. I didn't know what was going to happen."
4. Continue the conversation as if you were already in it. If you show that you are interested , the other members probably won't have any problems with you joining in.
5 If you don't know what the group is talking about, but it sounds interesting, ask them what
they're talking about. Then, listen to what different people have to say about it and continue
step two Ex. " I heard you guys laughing. It sounds like you're have an interesting conversation.
What are you talking about?" .
6. If you join a conversation, but have absolutely no idea what people are talking about, donèt say
anything until you have figured out just what they are talking about. Do not simply rely on the
last sentence you heard.
7. If you know the people,, they are likely to let you into the conversation. If they hint that
you should go away, you should.
SPECIAL NOTE: The biggest conversation killer self-consciousness. If you act as if you don't belong, you will make others uncomfortable, particularly if you don't speak at all. The WORST thing you can do is NOT speak up when there is an obvious opportunity.
1. Pay attention to what is going on around you. Is there someone hovering around the edge of
your of your group who looks interested?
2. Use body language to let the person know they are welcome. Signal with your head, or open
up a space in the group so that the other person can actually move in.
3. Make the newcomer feel welcome. Physically include him or her in the group, and make others
in the group aware that someone else has joined in. Do NOT exclude the newcomer unless your
conversation is private.
4. Give the newcomer time to get comfortable with the topic. Then if the person seems a little shy
about saying something, give him or her a helping hand. Ex. So, how do YOU feel about the
hockey riots, Michelle
5. If the newcomer makes a comment, or offers an opinion, respond to it, just as you would to any
would to any other person in the group.
6. You have now made someone else comfortable about joining in to your conversation. Keep
doing it, and you will have acquired an important social skill. Maybe someone will be as
helpful to you in another situation.